January has passed, and honestly, can’t say that I saw a plethora of men resolved to meet their beloved in the coming year. Perhaps they’re waiting for the Chinese New Year and I didn’t get the memo.
Anyhow, the score board is now the following: Am back on eVow temporarily, waiting out this month on the Fitness Site and, yes, in the interest of completely not following my own dictums, I just got on Eharmony – again. My fellow non-blogger, Jane got it from her shoe lady at Neiman’s - she met her boyfriend on Eharmony and they’ve been dating for two years. Again, solid gold advice.
I am very flexible, or perhaps, just without any discernable character.
So the total is: one free site and four paying, with one leaving off at the end of the month.
Phew… anyhow, one more piece of housekeeping before we soldier on…. I have noticed a very sad plague on these sites. More than 50% of these men say they are widowers. While a true widower is nothing to laugh about, what is it with these guys? I’m convinced some of these see this as a high sympathy factor for bagging more babes. Otherwise, women are dying like flies and that doesn’t seem to be the case – at least it wasn’t in the news. I can’t believe that many men in their 40’s and 50’s are widowers. I suppose I could be wrong, but I think it’s odd.
The big report for this entry is that the guy who stood me up called again. He apologized all over the place on my voice mail and I thought, why bother if he really didn’t want to be forgiven. So, I waited a while, Serial Monogamist said to blow him off, but poor SM, I rarely listen to him do I? So, I did call, and we made a date.
Happily, though he is a self-described cross between Howdy Doody and Ron Howard, he was nice enough to treat me to coffee.
Okay, people, pick yourselves off the floor.
We had a nice conversation where he told me that younger guys just want to bag older babes for the gratitude factor. You live and definitely learn. Gratitude, I have found doesn’t go both ways at all. However, as I said we had a nice conversation and I’m going to meet him again for drinks.
Also, met another beachboy. He’s from somewhat further down the coast than One Syllable and we met in Santa Monica in the evening (when I look my best). I thought he was cute however, a little more weathered than I like – that may be the result of spending his weekends playing beach volleyball. We also had a good conversation, and I thought he was into me, but then, he seemed to fade out when he saw my car and found out I had a house.
I think that a woman that seems affluent, or at least fiscally responsible may need to hide it for the first couple of dates. However, it was a nice evening and not a huge loss either way.
Trudging onward.
I’ve been researching and found out many new things. First and foremost, that most people think that PlentyofFish is just about the most execrable site on the internet. There is much complaining about the DOGs on that site. I’ve learned that is an acronym of Desperate Old Guys/Gals. I hope that is not I.
Further, it will no doubt not shock anyone that people put loads of phony profiles on these sites. Naïve of me, but I’m the type who thinks because I’m honest and fairly straightforward that everyone else is going to be. I know they’re not, but I insist that I shall operate as though they are, for my peace of mind and faith in mankind, not for theirs.
Through the R + D, I found a couple of new sites. There’s one that at least seems founded on a sense of humor for people who love British accents. I got on that one, but have to pay to be a full member, and I’m holding off. Then, there is one that is supposed to be the best site after Perfect Match (which I thought, frankly, disastrous), Eharmony (not liking much they keep on sending me “matches” without photos, and to be honest if I can put myself out there, so can they!), and Match.com, which isn’t all that bad. It’s called Matchmaker.com. I went on it, and so far, of course and again, unless you pay, no real results.
And, could someone remind me again why people from Germany and Greenbriar, Arkansas would contact me?
Lo and behold, someone nice has contacted me on the Fitness site. Seems he loved what I said about people on the site. That is, if they didn’t spend as much time tending to themselves as my kitty, I would give them a chance. Since then he’s written me several nice and extremely literate emails. He’s out of town, he says, but it seems that we might actually meet when he returns. In addition, a guy from very close by has contacted me as well. Geographically desirable because of oft-mentioned LA traffic is such a good thing!
Well all seems a little in a holding pattern at this point, perhaps there will be good things to report soon… I’m naïve enough (see above) to hope so!
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